Covenant Love Should Be Shared Obedience
A marriage should be of covenant not just in a general or contractual sense.
Covenant marriage would be purposed to mirror GOD’s relationship with His people. Even though many of us think so, it’s not just about staying together, it’s more about becoming one through trust, surrender, and the shared obedience to something greater than both perceive.
Love dances.
The description of the covenant fire is similar to the promise of both individuals inviting one another into mutual surrender, not reciprocated scorekeeping. I have been guilty of carrying around tally cards.
Restoration has a purpose, but sometimes the plan is not readily available.
The “why” of being obedient matters, as it is the compliance and submission the Lord Commands and desires. The “why” is to be the act of returning to intimacy, trust, and the joint purpose that you two wanted in the beginning.
Each step towards preparing for the reunion is a pretty good visual of Yeshua’s obedience as the faithful Bridegroom, Who lays down His life not out of obligation, but out of covenant love.
Love dances.
Shared obedience is not only suggestive, but telling, as it should remind both people that it is about us and always has been. Sharing the responsibility of the relationship would be a major indicator in the relationship that the two of you are trying to align their wills and attentiveness toward a common goal of honoring GOD and one another.
Your marriage was designed to tell the world about GOD!
In your marriage. obedience to GOD becomes safe when it’s shared. When both partners are equally committed to listening, honoring, and responding, it builds emotional security. It most certainly removes the fear of imbalance where one of you is upholding his or her part, the other dominates.
In broken relationships, sharing the sweat and effort can be a path to healing. When both parties agree to follow a restorative process, guided by truth, grace, and accountability, it becomes a sacred dance of repair.
Love dances.
Imagine a ballroom dance of sorts when both are trying to lead. Imagine a ballroom dance of sorts when none are trying to follow. In the marriage dance, there must be a Fred and a Ginger.