Marital Fidelity Avoids Infidelity in Marriage
Fidelity (dependability) in a marital union isn’t just about exclusivity, it’s about trust, depth, and the kind of emotional safety that allows two people to truly thrive together. If you have been married for any length of time, you should not be able to read on without peeking into your own union’s past (and present). One of the most important factors of a healthy relationship (marriage) is being emotionally secure. This one is huge, for me! What? Do you mean to say, men have emotions? Yes! …especially this one. I’m going to let you in on some specifics of my life. I will share with you the impact of having emotional security in my marriage. Once more, I am going to slice up what it does and has done for me.
My wife has done a great job of doing all the stuff that has enriched our marital union. I feel secure in the aftermath. …Emotional Security. The decisions she has made over the years have invested in my trust of her. Those choices have built confidence and intimacy that is far greater than the physical. …Emotional Security.
When both partners are authentic, they feel safe to be vulnerable, which deepens the emotional connection.
When I am feeling emotionally secure, any anxiety of life can be and often is reduced.
Fidelity removes the fear of betrayal, allowing both partners to focus on growing together rather than guarding themselves.
I certainly don’t believe that I am the only one who has experienced struggles with insecurity (in any form). I refuse to live in that bubble of lies and deception. I want and need to feel secure in the realm of my marriage relationship. What about you?
If you know anything about me, I enjoy sharing. Sometimes, I am guilty of oversharing. I am good with that though. Why? I want to help people to be free and become removed from self-service. Fidelity is a safe place to be. Think of emotional security like a warm, well-lit room. You can take off your armor, speak freely, and rest. Without it, marriage can feel like walking on eggshells in the dark. That IS NOT Emotional Security.
Let’s not neglect the versatile tool of communication. Why not? Verbal, non-verbal and even written messages (collectively) are the heartbeat of emotional security in relationships. It’s how allies signal safety, love, and reliability to each other. When communication is healthy, it becomes the bridge that connects two people not just intellectually, but emotionally.
Contemplate the emotional climate of your relationship. Is it warm and inviting, or cold and unpredictable? The way hubbies and wifies speak to each other—especially in moments of stress—shapes the emotional terrain they walk together.
If you’re reflecting on this in your own life, learn to explore ways to strengthen communication in better more imaginative ways that spell health and not hurt. Not talking about it is not going to foster Emotional Security.
Emotional Security strengthens commitment on both sides. It reinforces the idea that both partners are committed to the same purpose and plan for the relationship.
Being self-absorbed in a relationship is like trying to dance while only listening to your own rhythm—it throws off the harmony and connection that emotional intimacy depends on. Is that lame? Does it sound hokey?
However, the Flip Side of self-awareness heals what is broken. The antidote to self-absorption is curiosity. What? Interest in your partner’s inner world, their joys, their fears and their stories will draw you near, like magnets. When both partners practice empathy and mutual care, the emotional climate becomes rich, warm, and resilient.
I sure hope you are reflecting on this in your own life or relationships. It has been and likely still is, too easy to do a lot of finger-pointing and very little or infrequent thoughts of one’s self woes. With fidelity, couples can evolve together, knowing they’re investing in a shared future.
Fidelity is not just about avoiding infidelity—it’s about choosing each other, again and again, in ways that build something lasting.